First to Pop

Anyone here been the first of their friends to have kids?

I’m not the first, first. Of course almost all my friends here are other moms or moms-to-be…but I am talking about the friends from pre-Army life. If DH does decide to go back to civilian life when his commitment is up, that will be my main social group.

I have one friend who is now on number two from college, but she is one of my younger friends and my older friends do not know her. Also, she is in DC, not NYC.

DH and I really didn’t go “clubbing” anyway. I haven’t done that since I was a teen.

Still, most of our friends are in the city.

Even the fact that a growing family may mean DH and I will move to the suburbs instead of the city will totally change our social life.

Will they take the train out to the suburbs to play cards with us and stay over or catch that last train back in? What if they have to be at work the next day? Lawyers do work on Saturdays.

Will they really want to be around babies and all of the noise and mess?

I know I will be fine with these changes, and I have high hopes for DH, but I wonder how my friends will adjust?

Not a huge worry, mind you…because my priority is my newly growing family…but I am just wondering.

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5 comments

  1. John says:

    My wife and I were the first of our group to have children – and it was like the floodgates opened after that.

    Our oldest is 10, and the youngest is 4. I will be honest. We sometimes tire of our friends with children still in diapers. It’s not the diapers, but it is when they come over and they trash the playroom, or even the house in general, but then do nothing to either help pick up after their children, or even to try and teach them to clean up after themselves at another person’s home.

    Overall we like all of our friends – and we love that they have children. We just would appreciate some help when their children are making the mess.

    Sorry to vent.

    Enjoy your little ones. They grow up very quickly. :)

  2. John says:

    My wife and I were the first of our group to have children – and it was like the floodgates opened after that.

    Our oldest is 10, and the youngest is 4. I will be honest. We sometimes tire of our friends with children still in diapers. It’s not the diapers, but it is when they come over and they trash the playroom, or even the house in general, but then do nothing to either help pick up after their children, or even to try and teach them to clean up after themselves at another person’s home.

    Overall we like all of our friends – and we love that they have children. We just would appreciate some help when their children are making the mess.

    Sorry to vent.

    Enjoy your little ones. They grow up very quickly. :)

  3. John says:

    My wife and I were the first of our group to have children – and it was like the floodgates opened after that.

    Our oldest is 10, and the youngest is 4. I will be honest. We sometimes tire of our friends with children still in diapers. It’s not the diapers, but it is when they come over and they trash the playroom, or even the house in general, but then do nothing to either help pick up after their children, or even to try and teach them to clean up after themselves at another person’s home.

    Overall we like all of our friends – and we love that they have children. We just would appreciate some help when their children are making the mess.

    Sorry to vent.

    Enjoy your little ones. They grow up very quickly. :)

  4. John says:

    My wife and I were the first of our group to have children – and it was like the floodgates opened after that.

    Our oldest is 10, and the youngest is 4. I will be honest. We sometimes tire of our friends with children still in diapers. It’s not the diapers, but it is when they come over and they trash the playroom, or even the house in general, but then do nothing to either help pick up after their children, or even to try and teach them to clean up after themselves at another person’s home.

    Overall we like all of our friends – and we love that they have children. We just would appreciate some help when their children are making the mess.

    Sorry to vent.

    Enjoy your little ones. They grow up very quickly. :)

  5. John says:

    My wife and I were the first of our group to have children – and it was like the floodgates opened after that.

    Our oldest is 10, and the youngest is 4. I will be honest. We sometimes tire of our friends with children still in diapers. It’s not the diapers, but it is when they come over and they trash the playroom, or even the house in general, but then do nothing to either help pick up after their children, or even to try and teach them to clean up after themselves at another person’s home.

    Overall we like all of our friends – and we love that they have children. We just would appreciate some help when their children are making the mess.

    Sorry to vent.

    Enjoy your little ones. They grow up very quickly. :)

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