Baby CyberShower for Junior

Some of my FABULOUS online friends are throwing me a baby cybershower on Mamanista. Pamela Kramer of Happy Panda Baby, who also blogs at PMKU, is my hostess with the mostess and our three shower game guest judges are the marvelous: Amy from Crunchy Domestic Goddess, Kristen from Mod*Mom and Christine from Dates to Diapers!

Whether or not you are a blogger, please go join in the fun (play games, say “hi,” and enter to win great prizes), because the guests make a party!

My hostess informs me that people like to see “bump” pics of the mama, so I am going to reveal my HUGE bump (as of this past Friday, 33.5 weeks along). Why do people think it is cute to ask, “Are you carrying twins?” Yes, this second go around I am much larger (and way more swollen) than last time. But still cute, right? ‘Cause pregnant women glow, right?

And to get a little bit of a soundtrack going for the party, during both pregnancies, I had “These Are Days” repeating over and over in my head. Because truly, these are days I’ll remember and carrying a baby is a blessing. Music always sets the mood for me. I actually made different mixes (slow rock, fast rock, slow classical, fast classical, and world music) to bring to my labor so I’d have something that suited my taste at the moment.

Now, let’s play some shower games!

Over at Mamanista, you’ll have an opportunity to play some games and win some prizes, too. Even though of course I’m not entering for prizes (I already got such gorgeous gifts), I will play along right here.

The first is the Most Inspirational Story. My last labor was difficult, and I’m am certainly hoping this next one is easier and more natural…which is part of why I want you all to inspire me with your tales! Maybe some of you will find my labor story inspiring:

My daughter arrived a week and a half early and her father was on his way home for leave from Iraq. In the preceding week, we had discovered she was in the transverse position. So, I started doing handstands in the pool to get her to reposition. Perhaps this led to my water breaking in the early hours of the following morning, or maybe not, but either way she was head down!

The following 24 hours were amazing. Although labor stalled, I accepted pictocin, at about hour 10 I went for the epidural, and I contracted an infection that stalled my contractions, those 24 hours were some of the most empowering of my life.

Each step of the way, I questioned each procedure and made the decision that I believed to be right. I refused the IV when I came in and I fought to keep trying hours after everyone else seemed to have given up. As we started getting closer to 24 hours, I could feel the epidural wearing off and I insisted they let me stand (holding onto the bar) so I could let gravity help.

And then I pushed my beautiful baby into the world and was placed on my chest, making the whole labor more than worth the effort. Her body was the exact temperature of mine and she just felt perfect.

The next game is Most Fabulous Nest. I chose a jungle theme for our last nursery. Although I don’t think it would win most fabulous nest, it was a serene place for me and my first baby. This time, we’re holding off on designing Junior’s space because my little girl didn’t use her room much until she was older. We’ll start him off in the co-sleeper each night and then he can join us in bed if he likes. Once he’s too old for the co-sleeper, he’ll move into his sister’s crib and inherit her room…and she’ll get to choose her own decorations.

The final game is the best/worst/funniest advice for new parents. I think that “nap while the baby sleeps” may qualify for all three. Certainly it is a great idea because new mamas need lots of rest. But who are all these moms who manage to nap with the baby all the time? And how much hired (or family) help do they have?

I think the best advice I’ve heard is to not take everything personally with the baby. You just do your best and then if the baby still cries, you just know that you did what your instincts said was right. That, and get a sling.

Now you go head on over to the CyberShower, play along, and don’t forget to leave a comment!

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  1. Debbie says:

    I agree with you. I hated hearing “Nap while baby sleeps.” After baby finished feeding, there was approximately 30-40 minutes left before he’d feed again. So if Mommy wants to eat breakfast, lunch and dinner (important for breastfeeding), she’ll have to be awake during at least 3 of those baby naps. And what about taking a shower? That’s nap number 4. The worst advice is when someone said, “You wouldn’t be so tired if you just napped when baby naps.” That’s just annoying.

  2. Jenn says:

    Congrats!! Well I was a nap while the baby naps mom! It worked well for me and here is how! I nursed while laying down. It helped the milk to flow,my head was laying on a pillow so comfort was wonderful. When the baby nursed to sleep I would just roll on my back and kinda sleep rest. This even worked with my second. I put the first down for nap and then I nursed, it got both kids on kind of the same schedule so it was a blessing. For those who chose or have to bottle feed well then yeah I would hate the nappers too!

  3. Amanda says:

    I agree with the “nap with the baby” yeah ummm ok, and what about everything else that has to be done around the house?

    I did the same s Jen, at night I’d lay on my side while the baby nursed, we were both more comfortable that way.

  4. Mama Luxe says:

    jenn…baby #1 was almost 100% breastfed straight from the tap. But there was no way I could shower, eat, work, and at least keep the place clean enough to avoid a call from CPS if I napped with her! So, I think it is good advice…but also kinda funny, too, because with hubby deployed, we would have been sleeping on a pile of dirty clothes and trash if I napped with her!

    I agree the house can wait, but only so long, y’know?

  5. Stacey Moore says:

    congrats! great stories!!

  6. Jenna says:

    Congratulations!!! I’m due with my second on Sept. 10th so I’m always excited sharing with other people who are pregnant and hearing about it!

  7. Congrats girl! I’m just now 30 weeks preggo and 1 day! Check out my post for my baby bump, your crib looks a bit like mine! Who is it by?

    I find it impossible to nap with baby… But I do know someone who does, my sister.. she’s a new Mom.. I didn’t ever have the time.. especially not now with my sons!

  8. Happy Panda says:

    How did I miss this post????? I can’t wait to get my brain back! You look beautiful as always. You might not feel it but you look it. 😉