He’s Not Heavy, He’s My Brother (41 Weeks)

Toddler Girl has offered to go get little brother out. I only wish it were that simple!

I’m now 41 weeks, 2 days and Junior hasn’t budged. The midwives have already estimated he is large. Clearly he is. I can feel his head and his rear and he is definitely big. The question is, how big? And what, if anything, to do about it.

The ultrasound today places his weight at 10 lbs. 12 oz. Unfortunately, there’s a huge margin of error there. In the back of my mind, though, is another number–8 oz. gained every week. Assuming the sonogram estimate is one pound too heavy, that’s still a large kid, who is getting larger every day.

Because my midwife is associated with the hospital’s practice, she has to inform my of the “increased risk of shoulder dystocia” and “offer” me a scheduled c-section. Which, to a hypochondriac like me, is like chum in the water.

I asked her a million and one questions, driving her to go consult with a doctor and, eventually, just photocopy reference pages for me to take home and read. I’m supposed to page her with our plan tomorrow.

So, full-on research mode. I learn that Fetal Macrosomia is difficult to predict by ultrasound and alone does not indicate a cesarean. I learn that induction in this case is also not indicated…my interpretation in layman’s terms would be “worse than useless.”

I also learn that Shoulder Dystocia is still rare, though a frightening and potentially extremely dangerous complication.

And then I read Nicola’s comment about a big baby birth on British BabyCentre:

i had a scan at 36 weeks which confirmed i was carrying at that time an 8lb baby. my first born was 9lb 5oz and my 2nd was 9lb 6oz. we were expecting a big baby however when i went into labour 12 days overdue, 9 hours later i gave birth to a healthy baby boy weighing 11lb 15oz… All absolutely natural, no stitches. healed absolutely perfectly and was up and about straight after delivery.

And then I found the “miraculous birth” story of this great big baby via Enjoy Birth.

Which is exactly what I needed to hear.

Right now, after pouring through online medical journals, we’re not planning on doing anything until at least 42 weeks. I’m hoping I go into labor before then, and things progress well. I’m considering a private hypnobirthing session, too, to bolster my confidence–I did this when Baby #1 was discovered to be transverse. She turned in time for the birth…I’m not saying there is causation there, but it can’t hurt, right?

Send labor vibes, people!

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  1. Veronique says:

    Labor vibes pointed right at ya!

  2. Labor vibes!

    I had shoulder dystocia with my 4 year old, my biggest at 8lbs 13oz. Simply wide shoulders and he was stuck for 3 minutes while they maneuvered him out of me. They worked on him another 45 minutes once out to ensure they hadn’t broken anything, and they hadn’t, he was perfect.

    *huge hugs* for you. I will have you in my thoughts :) I’m 36 weeks along myself.

  3. Helen says:

    oh – best to you! A mom I know – who has birthed 5 big babies – likes to remind people that babies gain fat in the last few weeks, and fat is squishy! You can do it!

  4. kristina says:

    Sending good labor vibes your way.

    I had two kids who each were an even 9 lbs. Secretly, I think that’s why they sleep so good.

    I had C-sections, tho. Please know that if you have one, it is not too bad. I can give you all the reassurance you need, if it comes to that. But hopefully it won’t.

  5. Mrs. Mogul says:

    Never had a c-section and want to avoid it at all costs! I was thinking of hynobirthing. Two weeks ago baby was head down and now this week, my doctor is not sure so I have an ultrasound next week. GOOD LUCK!!!

  6. Awesome Mom says:

    I am sending them your way! Good luck!

  7. Amanda says:

    One of my kids’ teachers had an 11lb something oz baby all naturally and everything was wonderful (relatively). Neither Mom nor baby had any complications.

    Labor vibes!!!