This may be a touchy subject, but I think it is especially relevant now with all these toy recalls.
How do you handle gifts that you don’t want?
There’s a story going around that Christina Aguilera (generally known for diva behavior) has thrown out some toys from her husband’s family.
According to the story, it is because they were from Babies R Us and not from the chic boutiques she believes better fit her celeb status.
We don’t know if the story is even true, or if that is in fact the reason she disposed of the gifts.
Aside from such snobbery, though, what if the gifts you receive just do not reflect your values or, worse, you are concerned about whether or not the toys are safe?
Obviously no one should ever feel obligated to give a gift…and it is truly the thought that counts. I always appreciate that someone thought of me and my family, regardless of what the actual gift is–a card is always lovely, too! But, whether you are pledging to toss everything from China after the lead paint scares, ban all Bratz paraphernalia, or donate items with licensed characters, is there any polite way to communicate this to friends and family who are likely to give gifts to your kiddos?
I have a friend who recently sent out an informational e-mail about stores and brands that are made in the USA. And on Mamanista I’ve been creating a list of stores that take special care in ensuring the safety of their toys and informing their customers about where the toys were made. Right now I have those stores starred on our shop page and soon I’ll be posting some of my favorite picks. You could also point people to some of the lists at Crunchy Domestic Goddess or the great independent and sometimes handmade finds at Cool Mom Picks.
But some people still either won’t get the hint or won’t care about your concerns. So, what do you do then?
Are you a terrible person if you write a nice thank you note and then return store bought gifts? Better to put them in a box and take them out when the gift giver visits and then donate when enough time has passed? Or just keep them around, even if you are not comfortable with the gift?
Is there a right way to go about this?
I would love to hear others’ thoughts on this topic!